Many people rarely, if ever, ask this critical question. Instead, they automatically assume that any problem they are having must be someone else’s fault. If there is a disagreement or argument, it’s the other person’s fault. If something went wrong, someone else made a mistake.
It simply never occurs to many people that something is their fault. Or, at the very least, that they may be partly responsible. On the surface, it might seem nice to believe that you’re never to blame. The problem, however, with this “never blame me” philosophy is that you’ll rarely be able to pinpoint the one aspect of problem solving that is truly solvable: your own contribution. Once you eliminate the fear associated with admitting that you are, at times, responsible for the parts of your life that aren’t working – minor annoyances and larger problems – you open a whole new door of possibilities.
Once you’re willing to accept responsibility for the problems in your life, you will see obvious solutions that take very minor adjustments to change.
Obviously, I’m not suggesting that everything is your fault, or that you should spend an exorbitant amount of time and energy thinking about your faults and drawbacks. To do so would be a different type of negative habit. It’s critical, however, that you’re honest about your contribution to your problems. Don’t bury your head in the sand. If you truly want to excel in your life, you must be willing to look in the mirror and, with humility and honesty, reflect on your contributions to what’s not going right in your life. That way, you can do something about it.
- A Post by 'One of those who is learning to ask himself that question.'
Showing posts with label Serious ramblings. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Serious ramblings. Show all posts
Friday, December 10, 2010
Thursday, May 27, 2010
Stressed and out
From being someone with zero adamance, anyone can turn xtremely adamant on passage of time. Role of time itself in such a change? Very high.
When you expectantly wait for something for over a year, say, a carnival and within a week of the event, some (our) boss changes his plans and plans, inadvertently ofcourse, to keep you stuck up at an extreemely 'enjoyable'(read antonym)official work so that you are exactly over 180 kms from the carnival on the D day. Wat do u do? pull out ur hair one by one as u watch ur dreamz go up in d air b4 ur eyes? Bang all the tables in front of you for a week? Listen to death metal songs (for the first time possibly) in full volume to vent out ur frustration?
I believe nothing can disturb ur mental tranquility as ur desparation for attending the event. A third person's plans which changes in the last minute may alter ur stress levels for the worse within seconds.
How to handle it? I dont know. There is a chance of desparation motivating you to perform at breakneck speed (like in the exams).
Or it may worsen your mood and keep you distressed for ages, or so it may seem, like it is to me now.
Lesson learnt over time: Bite all ur nails and hope that the carnival comes along the next year.
drafted via mobileweb ages ago...
When you expectantly wait for something for over a year, say, a carnival and within a week of the event, some (our) boss changes his plans and plans, inadvertently ofcourse, to keep you stuck up at an extreemely 'enjoyable'(read antonym)official work so that you are exactly over 180 kms from the carnival on the D day. Wat do u do? pull out ur hair one by one as u watch ur dreamz go up in d air b4 ur eyes? Bang all the tables in front of you for a week? Listen to death metal songs (for the first time possibly) in full volume to vent out ur frustration?
I believe nothing can disturb ur mental tranquility as ur desparation for attending the event. A third person's plans which changes in the last minute may alter ur stress levels for the worse within seconds.
How to handle it? I dont know. There is a chance of desparation motivating you to perform at breakneck speed (like in the exams).
Or it may worsen your mood and keep you distressed for ages, or so it may seem, like it is to me now.
Lesson learnt over time: Bite all ur nails and hope that the carnival comes along the next year.
drafted via mobileweb ages ago...
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Are we not ripe enough?
Oh what a tangled web we weave,
When first we practise to deceive! — Sir Walter Scott, Marmion
Speaking truth all the time has been a difficult task in this KaliYuga, IS a difficult task now and will be a difficult task. We hesitate to speak the truth whenever the truth is unfavorable to us. Why don’t we feel suffocated by that? Bcoz we’ve grown up with that cringing feeling that we do not recognize the hump we bear have @ all.
Reason for tolerating lies lies in human nature: We believe that it is then our moral duty NOT to interfere in other people’s ability to make their own decision (Lying in this context). This makes lying morally wrong for two reasons. “First, lying corrupts the most important quality of my being human: my ability to make free, rational choices. Each lie I tell contradicts the part of me that gives me moral worth. Second, my lies rob others of their freedom to choose rationally.
Virtue ethics finds lying immoral when it is a step away, not toward, the process of becoming the best persons we can be. Virtue ethicists argue that when faced a seeming conflict between virtues, such as a compassionate lie, do what an “ideal” person would do. Virtue ethics finds lying immoral when it is a step away, not toward, the process of becoming the best persons we can be.
Practical ethicists “claim that actions, including lying, are morally acceptable when the resulting consequences maximize benefit or minimize harm.” The end justifies the means.
Is your head spinning yet? But wait! Here’s more!
Forget the analysis and the psychology. They serve at least one purpose. They rationalize our lying – I can choose the theory I like and bingo! I’m “cleared” the consequences of my action.
But why do we lie? Could it be that we no longer hold each other accountable for what we do? How many times have you said to yourself, “How could he get away with that?” Could it be that whatever we held as moral then we no longer hold? Could it be that, according to Time Magazine, “we no longer understand or agree on the rules governing our behavior toward one another.”
Imagine when a short boy aged 15 years old wants to go to a amusement park and the park rules tells u to buy a full ticket for every one who is aged above 14 yrs.
What do we do? Well, we take him anyway – nothing can stop a parent from buying a half ticket and saving half ticket worth money. We also instruct him that if asked he should say he was 13 years old.
Then 10 minutes later, just metres away from the entrance here comes the park official with the boy stopping him from using a half ticket. Needless to say, the boy got caught with a lie. You should see the look on the boy’s face when he is escorted back to the entrance. Here, the parent feels a grief and guilt for something that the boy did not even cause. That will make anyone regret, not for having been caught, but to have lied at all.
Here u not only seed thoughts which justify lying in the nxt gen ppl but also indirectly indicate that u can get away easily with a lie.
The main reasons why we lie are :
· Fear of harm: To prevent harm to ourselves – either physical or mental.
· Fear of conflict: To some degree, we all fear having an argument.
· Fear of punishment: When growing up, how often did we lie about how well we did in school, or who started a fight? How often do we cover up our mistakes and transgressions?
· Fear of rejection: Sometimes, our insecurities are the foundation of why we lie to each other, because we want to be remain popular in our relationships. Typically, it is harmless boasting to make ourselves appear more admirable to other people.(Yet when we eat shit, reasons don’t matter)
· Fear of loss: This is usually the loss of personal objects, such as money or expensive valuables. Greed is the foundation for this reason and can be found in each of us. We often lie to make ourselves more desirable to other people too.
At times, when our self-esteem starts to decline, we even lie to ourselves as means to prevent loss of morale.
· Unselfish Reasons: We often lie to help our friends and loved ones. How often do we flattery someone just to make them feel better? This is the only selfless reason why we lie. (A purified and sterilized shit, I believe)
Being a long post even for my reading, I would like to sign this post off with a dilemma of mine…
At work place for instance when we want to have a day off. What do we do? We have the template reason, which we were taught at primary school
“As I am suffering from fever….”
I am of the view that even those with high levels of commitment will have days on which they would like to bunk office. Does that make them commitmentless that they do not like to come to office on a particular day? Absolutely not…. Still they use sham reason like fever, sick leave etc.
That is because that no superior likes the truth. He’ll accept a facade fully knowing that it is not true but will not accept the true reason. Why doesn’t he accept the fact that a person doesn’t want to work on such a day and also accept it openly?
Now put urself in the superior’s position. Obviously we empathise with him. What is the reason for such attitude of ours?
Are we not ripe enough to accept the truth? Does this attitude extends to all spheres of our life? Answers do not matter. Change does.
P.S: I do not wish to say that I do not lie. Rather I'm change in progress
When first we practise to deceive! — Sir Walter Scott, Marmion
Speaking truth all the time has been a difficult task in this KaliYuga, IS a difficult task now and will be a difficult task. We hesitate to speak the truth whenever the truth is unfavorable to us. Why don’t we feel suffocated by that? Bcoz we’ve grown up with that cringing feeling that we do not recognize the hump we bear have @ all.
Reason for tolerating lies lies in human nature: We believe that it is then our moral duty NOT to interfere in other people’s ability to make their own decision (Lying in this context). This makes lying morally wrong for two reasons. “First, lying corrupts the most important quality of my being human: my ability to make free, rational choices. Each lie I tell contradicts the part of me that gives me moral worth. Second, my lies rob others of their freedom to choose rationally.
Virtue ethics finds lying immoral when it is a step away, not toward, the process of becoming the best persons we can be. Virtue ethicists argue that when faced a seeming conflict between virtues, such as a compassionate lie, do what an “ideal” person would do. Virtue ethics finds lying immoral when it is a step away, not toward, the process of becoming the best persons we can be.
Practical ethicists “claim that actions, including lying, are morally acceptable when the resulting consequences maximize benefit or minimize harm.” The end justifies the means.
Is your head spinning yet? But wait! Here’s more!
Forget the analysis and the psychology. They serve at least one purpose. They rationalize our lying – I can choose the theory I like and bingo! I’m “cleared” the consequences of my action.
But why do we lie? Could it be that we no longer hold each other accountable for what we do? How many times have you said to yourself, “How could he get away with that?” Could it be that whatever we held as moral then we no longer hold? Could it be that, according to Time Magazine, “we no longer understand or agree on the rules governing our behavior toward one another.”
Imagine when a short boy aged 15 years old wants to go to a amusement park and the park rules tells u to buy a full ticket for every one who is aged above 14 yrs.
What do we do? Well, we take him anyway – nothing can stop a parent from buying a half ticket and saving half ticket worth money. We also instruct him that if asked he should say he was 13 years old.
Then 10 minutes later, just metres away from the entrance here comes the park official with the boy stopping him from using a half ticket. Needless to say, the boy got caught with a lie. You should see the look on the boy’s face when he is escorted back to the entrance. Here, the parent feels a grief and guilt for something that the boy did not even cause. That will make anyone regret, not for having been caught, but to have lied at all.
Here u not only seed thoughts which justify lying in the nxt gen ppl but also indirectly indicate that u can get away easily with a lie.
The main reasons why we lie are :
· Fear of harm: To prevent harm to ourselves – either physical or mental.
· Fear of conflict: To some degree, we all fear having an argument.
· Fear of punishment: When growing up, how often did we lie about how well we did in school, or who started a fight? How often do we cover up our mistakes and transgressions?
· Fear of rejection: Sometimes, our insecurities are the foundation of why we lie to each other, because we want to be remain popular in our relationships. Typically, it is harmless boasting to make ourselves appear more admirable to other people.(Yet when we eat shit, reasons don’t matter)
· Fear of loss: This is usually the loss of personal objects, such as money or expensive valuables. Greed is the foundation for this reason and can be found in each of us. We often lie to make ourselves more desirable to other people too.
At times, when our self-esteem starts to decline, we even lie to ourselves as means to prevent loss of morale.
· Unselfish Reasons: We often lie to help our friends and loved ones. How often do we flattery someone just to make them feel better? This is the only selfless reason why we lie. (A purified and sterilized shit, I believe)
Being a long post even for my reading, I would like to sign this post off with a dilemma of mine…
At work place for instance when we want to have a day off. What do we do? We have the template reason, which we were taught at primary school
“As I am suffering from fever….”
I am of the view that even those with high levels of commitment will have days on which they would like to bunk office. Does that make them commitmentless that they do not like to come to office on a particular day? Absolutely not…. Still they use sham reason like fever, sick leave etc.
That is because that no superior likes the truth. He’ll accept a facade fully knowing that it is not true but will not accept the true reason. Why doesn’t he accept the fact that a person doesn’t want to work on such a day and also accept it openly?
Now put urself in the superior’s position. Obviously we empathise with him. What is the reason for such attitude of ours?
Are we not ripe enough to accept the truth? Does this attitude extends to all spheres of our life? Answers do not matter. Change does.
P.S: I do not wish to say that I do not lie. Rather I'm change in progress
Friday, July 17, 2009
Read the edit page article by Sri.Gurumurthy
A Tale of two Kashmirs
Go to the following link and check out the edit page article -
http://epaper.newindpress.com/NE/NE/2009/07/15/INDEX.SHTML
Go to the following link and check out the edit page article -
http://epaper.newindpress.com/NE/NE/2009/07/15/INDEX.SHTML
Monday, July 13, 2009
The Mission
Open the soul
exhausted and dormant
to generously fill
with the strength
radiating from the heart.
Awaken from hibernation
the power of mind.
Create a fusion of humility and ego
backed by confidence for a happy mind!
Unleash from cowardly matter
the vivid spirit's flame
to generate success.
Chuck out doubt!
Shake mind and nerves from intense shivers;
Create hope and bear the illusion and pain;
Disturb the stagnant and the quiet;
initiate soul's climb;
Use all possible ways
to harness the intellect
over habits -both good and evil.
Fulfill the arduous tasks
on earth(obviously CA is one)(Yea, atleast for me:))
is life's elect mission at the moment
The most difficult
and yet
THE most welcomed.
-- Just Ready for Success - thats my Destiny
exhausted and dormant
to generously fill
with the strength
radiating from the heart.
Awaken from hibernation
the power of mind.
Create a fusion of humility and ego
backed by confidence for a happy mind!
Unleash from cowardly matter
the vivid spirit's flame
to generate success.
Chuck out doubt!
Shake mind and nerves from intense shivers;
Create hope and bear the illusion and pain;
Disturb the stagnant and the quiet;
initiate soul's climb;
Use all possible ways
to harness the intellect
over habits -both good and evil.
Fulfill the arduous tasks
on earth(obviously CA is one)(Yea, atleast for me:))
is life's elect mission at the moment
The most difficult
and yet
THE most welcomed.
-- Just Ready for Success - thats my Destiny
Monday, April 06, 2009
Dividing people on behavioural lines
Many people in the world we brush across, we dont form any opinion but when we do, we are bound to classify them as different types. Even for a person who dislikes to form opinions, like me, you cant help not classifying them.
In the last 2 years especially, Ive stumbled across diverse kinds of people. I would like to share 10 types of people who have strongly imprinted themselves in my mind.....
1. Mr.Know all who keeps mum
Everyone must have come across him.He works hard and hardly talks. The bookish type who wants himself to be projected that way. Always technically correct.
2. Flashers
The kind of people I H-A-T-E. The problem is that such people think that they are knowledgeable but their knowledge is confined to books. Never know practicality. They flash their knowledge at chottus at every chance and feel elated. Mr. Preface reader and Ms.Volatility are such kind.
3. Silent and Self-Centered
They are silent and unsocialising with ears all over the place. Remembers every word you wrongly uttered with him around the place. Latent inferiority complex reason their behavior. Tries to grab the attention with lousy techniques such as making gruntling sounds or raising others mistakes however small it might be in public. Do their work and they are pleased but do your work well and they are intimidated.
4. Showstopper
Whichever team he is, slips into irritation mode quite easily. Not only they don't work but they are speed breakers to others work too.(I'll never forget my FILING experience guys). Is completely inefficient and uncooperative.They are best suited for our opposing team.
5. The Self-centered unrepentant
They are not show stoppers but a slightly civilised version of them. They are unrepentant of their mistakes and are selfish beyond compare. Many say being selfish is allright in today's world. Oh Yeah? I disagree slightly! Be self centred to the extent others are not affected wrongly.You know it by observing the way they interact. 'They want you and you must help and they do not want you and you must disappear' kind of thinkers.
6. Mr. Pokeynose
He is the one we are most familiar with. Minds others business more than his. Ready to pour out Gyan at the drop of a hat. Such behaviour is fuelled by either by curiousity or lack of self confidence. I don think i need to elaborate on them.
7. The gossiper
Another familiar face. Mr.G has a huge inclination for being in the thick of action. Spreads information like a radio. Just being THE source gives him the kick to continue his behaviour. Once you see through his bluffs, he can be extremely entertaining with his antics. In fact, you can even enjoy his imagination in passing on incomplete information as complete ones.
8.Mr.Perfect
People with inhuman sense of perfection. Has extreme efficiency at whatever he does. Never gets bored of routine. I personally admire such people (I`ve met just 1 such person till date). Works with clockwork precision and obviously their result speaks for them.
9.The Diplomat
Diplomat one who refuses to take sides / give opinions. Being a diplomat is not much fun since once you've taken a neutral stand you don't want to involve yourself at all. Being a diplomat robs you of the thrill of being a part of an issue. But its advantage in being so is that no one comes to you for opinions or asks you any decision making queries since they know nothing fruitful will emerge from questioning you. A perfect hat for an escapist.
10.Namma mamaas
The moment you see these kind of people you get an affinity towards them. Do not bother about mistakes and take things lightly. Never bound by books. their energy level is visible only when they are in a group.They enjoy being in a herd and are marked by loads of impatience. Give them a group goal and it is as good as done.
In the last 2 years especially, Ive stumbled across diverse kinds of people. I would like to share 10 types of people who have strongly imprinted themselves in my mind.....
1. Mr.Know all who keeps mum
Everyone must have come across him.He works hard and hardly talks. The bookish type who wants himself to be projected that way. Always technically correct.
2. Flashers
The kind of people I H-A-T-E. The problem is that such people think that they are knowledgeable but their knowledge is confined to books. Never know practicality. They flash their knowledge at chottus at every chance and feel elated. Mr. Preface reader and Ms.Volatility are such kind.
3. Silent and Self-Centered
They are silent and unsocialising with ears all over the place. Remembers every word you wrongly uttered with him around the place. Latent inferiority complex reason their behavior. Tries to grab the attention with lousy techniques such as making gruntling sounds or raising others mistakes however small it might be in public. Do their work and they are pleased but do your work well and they are intimidated.
4. Showstopper
Whichever team he is, slips into irritation mode quite easily. Not only they don't work but they are speed breakers to others work too.(I'll never forget my FILING experience guys). Is completely inefficient and uncooperative.They are best suited for our opposing team.
5. The Self-centered unrepentant
They are not show stoppers but a slightly civilised version of them. They are unrepentant of their mistakes and are selfish beyond compare. Many say being selfish is allright in today's world. Oh Yeah? I disagree slightly! Be self centred to the extent others are not affected wrongly.You know it by observing the way they interact. 'They want you and you must help and they do not want you and you must disappear' kind of thinkers.
6. Mr. Pokeynose
He is the one we are most familiar with. Minds others business more than his. Ready to pour out Gyan at the drop of a hat. Such behaviour is fuelled by either by curiousity or lack of self confidence. I don think i need to elaborate on them.
7. The gossiper
Another familiar face. Mr.G has a huge inclination for being in the thick of action. Spreads information like a radio. Just being THE source gives him the kick to continue his behaviour. Once you see through his bluffs, he can be extremely entertaining with his antics. In fact, you can even enjoy his imagination in passing on incomplete information as complete ones.
8.Mr.Perfect
People with inhuman sense of perfection. Has extreme efficiency at whatever he does. Never gets bored of routine. I personally admire such people (I`ve met just 1 such person till date). Works with clockwork precision and obviously their result speaks for them.
9.The Diplomat
Diplomat one who refuses to take sides / give opinions. Being a diplomat is not much fun since once you've taken a neutral stand you don't want to involve yourself at all. Being a diplomat robs you of the thrill of being a part of an issue. But its advantage in being so is that no one comes to you for opinions or asks you any decision making queries since they know nothing fruitful will emerge from questioning you. A perfect hat for an escapist.
10.Namma mamaas
The moment you see these kind of people you get an affinity towards them. Do not bother about mistakes and take things lightly. Never bound by books. their energy level is visible only when they are in a group.They enjoy being in a herd and are marked by loads of impatience. Give them a group goal and it is as good as done.
Saturday, March 28, 2009
Woman Rights - Oversubscribed !
“If you want to bring out a change around you, then you be that change and what is there around you will as well change your way.”
Greet u ppl with this phrase. Sounds Great doesn't it? Having this phrase in my blog does not mean that what i've posted is such change from the routine.
Indian Learning System - Women way:
Ever since my 6th standard I've seen girls do well in exams. They follow a simple process of learning which unfortunately doesn't suit our unstructured brains one bit. Three words summarise it: Ctrl+C, Ctrl+V and in some cases Ctrl+X, Ctrl+V . Nothing more nothing less.On a more tangible front, I still do not think we have any great teachers at CA Level till date.
{Personal view 1: Women teachers beyond school level are extremely good in singing lullabies )
Why to educate a women?
Women do have a razor sharp memory.All of you will vouch for that. Indian education system does not only recognise this fact but also encourages and appeases their way of learning things.
Why?
India is a country that believes in equity. No one should have an unfair advantage over the other.
We may not give 33% in the parliament but we do give a 75:25 edge to women on the academic front.
How?
We have adapted the learning pattern to test the memory and not the intellect. Teachers award rote learning but fail to recognise the unconventional thinkers.
Marks are awarded not to practicality but only for theory sans applicability.
No, I'm neither frustrated at my non-performance nor their 'good' 'academic' performance. Just frustrated that we have to remember but not know!!
(No wonder 90% of school teachers in India are Women. With due respect to teachers I reiterate that they do not mean harm intentionally but they jus do pass on their legacy in good faith and without negligence)
[Key: Throughout this blog, “WE’ refers to the men as a whole. There are always exceptions, but the ideas are brought out based on the majority experiences ;)]
The Great Indian Feminism:
But women, especially in India do have a skewed sense of gender equality.I'm sure i'll bag the votes for this sentence too.
What?!!!
For Eg,they feel that they are not given any position of power in the Country whose President, the ORIGINAL PM as on March 30th 2009 and Decisive regional party heads are all women.
Still not convinced. A Crude example must suffice. For(e.g)most of us won't feel that consumers of alcohol and smokers are given that RIGHT but we are not. Atleast I do not.
But the way women in India are bursting into bars and nightclubs suggest otherwise.(Again based on considerable first hand experience with no jibes intended).
Not convinced? See Chennai Times Page 3 everyday. Alcoholism is bad for both genders but atleast the RIGHTS ISSUE does not arise with men.
Travelling:
There seems to be a taboo that public transport is unsafe for a woman.
In 2009, I would like not to waste my time in addressing this issue but would like to respond in 8 alphabets "Bull Shit". I do not wish to focus on exceptions.
{Personal view 2: On the other hand I feel that women travelling by public transport is safe for other commuters on the road.Scootys and Streaks are zooming around chennai like none before.Along with it many cases of rash or thoughtless driving coupled with lack of control/maneuverability.)
As the saying goes 'Saathvikama irunda kaiya thooki kumbiduvanga' applies to both the genders even in this age . It is just that it is very tough to practise it.
A Revised version of the saying goes something like this 'Attoda attagasam Asin the vida mosam'. Hope you got the issue.
Introvert:
India is a country that believes in tolerance - "Hit us in Delhi and get Mumbai free" way of living.
We all are advised that anger should be controlled and not let loose. You may get angry for just reasons. Yeah, Like workplace inefficiency, misdirected irreverence etc. But i do not feel that anger should be expressed just because we have a skewed sense/belief of equality.
Recently I heard that only girls are brought up in life with the teaching about tolerance.I vote against the view.
Jus see what happens when a boy gets angry in front of his father.[Overa pesina avanuku idi(slaps), mazhai(tears) than]
Girls DO think:
It is a common misconception of women that men around start owning the woman and taking her for granted and that they have been bestowed with brains.
Oh yeah, Seems that we have not been bestowed with it!! Studies reveal that Men are better decision makers while women are mostly unstable with theirs. Men take the care to see to that women being volatile beings do not disturb others around them due to their sometimes not thought out decisions.
This is a preventive measure than a measure curtailing people's freedom. On the other hand, girls do think, but sometimes think too much and imagine so far that is both incomprehensible and unnecessary.
The thoughts on this issue keeps pouring as it is never ending debate..
but more important is the fact that i need to hit the sack right now as to get atleast 2 hours sleep before the Ind V NZ match begins...
Just Reeling Into Sleep and Drowsiness..
Greet u ppl with this phrase. Sounds Great doesn't it? Having this phrase in my blog does not mean that what i've posted is such change from the routine.
Indian Learning System - Women way:
Ever since my 6th standard I've seen girls do well in exams. They follow a simple process of learning which unfortunately doesn't suit our unstructured brains one bit. Three words summarise it: Ctrl+C, Ctrl+V and in some cases Ctrl+X, Ctrl+V . Nothing more nothing less.On a more tangible front, I still do not think we have any great teachers at CA Level till date.
{Personal view 1: Women teachers beyond school level are extremely good in singing lullabies )
Why to educate a women?
Women do have a razor sharp memory.All of you will vouch for that. Indian education system does not only recognise this fact but also encourages and appeases their way of learning things.
Why?
India is a country that believes in equity. No one should have an unfair advantage over the other.
We may not give 33% in the parliament but we do give a 75:25 edge to women on the academic front.
How?
We have adapted the learning pattern to test the memory and not the intellect. Teachers award rote learning but fail to recognise the unconventional thinkers.
Marks are awarded not to practicality but only for theory sans applicability.
No, I'm neither frustrated at my non-performance nor their 'good' 'academic' performance. Just frustrated that we have to remember but not know!!
(No wonder 90% of school teachers in India are Women. With due respect to teachers I reiterate that they do not mean harm intentionally but they jus do pass on their legacy in good faith and without negligence)
[Key: Throughout this blog, “WE’ refers to the men as a whole. There are always exceptions, but the ideas are brought out based on the majority experiences ;)]
The Great Indian Feminism:
But women, especially in India do have a skewed sense of gender equality.I'm sure i'll bag the votes for this sentence too.
What?!!!
For Eg,they feel that they are not given any position of power in the Country whose President, the ORIGINAL PM as on March 30th 2009 and Decisive regional party heads are all women.
Still not convinced. A Crude example must suffice. For(e.g)most of us won't feel that consumers of alcohol and smokers are given that RIGHT but we are not. Atleast I do not.
But the way women in India are bursting into bars and nightclubs suggest otherwise.(Again based on considerable first hand experience with no jibes intended).
Not convinced? See Chennai Times Page 3 everyday. Alcoholism is bad for both genders but atleast the RIGHTS ISSUE does not arise with men.
Travelling:
There seems to be a taboo that public transport is unsafe for a woman.
In 2009, I would like not to waste my time in addressing this issue but would like to respond in 8 alphabets "Bull Shit". I do not wish to focus on exceptions.
{Personal view 2: On the other hand I feel that women travelling by public transport is safe for other commuters on the road.Scootys and Streaks are zooming around chennai like none before.Along with it many cases of rash or thoughtless driving coupled with lack of control/maneuverability.)
As the saying goes 'Saathvikama irunda kaiya thooki kumbiduvanga' applies to both the genders even in this age . It is just that it is very tough to practise it.
A Revised version of the saying goes something like this 'Attoda attagasam Asin the vida mosam'. Hope you got the issue.
Introvert:
India is a country that believes in tolerance - "Hit us in Delhi and get Mumbai free" way of living.
We all are advised that anger should be controlled and not let loose. You may get angry for just reasons. Yeah, Like workplace inefficiency, misdirected irreverence etc. But i do not feel that anger should be expressed just because we have a skewed sense/belief of equality.
Recently I heard that only girls are brought up in life with the teaching about tolerance.I vote against the view.
Jus see what happens when a boy gets angry in front of his father.[Overa pesina avanuku idi(slaps), mazhai(tears) than]
Girls DO think:
It is a common misconception of women that men around start owning the woman and taking her for granted and that they have been bestowed with brains.
Oh yeah, Seems that we have not been bestowed with it!! Studies reveal that Men are better decision makers while women are mostly unstable with theirs. Men take the care to see to that women being volatile beings do not disturb others around them due to their sometimes not thought out decisions.
This is a preventive measure than a measure curtailing people's freedom. On the other hand, girls do think, but sometimes think too much and imagine so far that is both incomprehensible and unnecessary.
The thoughts on this issue keeps pouring as it is never ending debate..
but more important is the fact that i need to hit the sack right now as to get atleast 2 hours sleep before the Ind V NZ match begins...
Just Reeling Into Sleep and Drowsiness..
Thursday, December 13, 2007
Evano Oruvan Reviewed!!
DISCLAIMER:-1.This is my post after a looong break, so its gonna be a bit long.
2. If you are looking for a run-of-the-mill review for a run-of the-mill film, STOP!
I will describe the movie in short for you people as I'm sure you are all gonna watch it (as you've read past my disclaimer above) and know about it yourself. It's one of the best PARALLEL CINEMA EVER MADE IN TAMIL CINEMA in my opinion! You cannot compare it with commercial cinema and with MIDDLE CINEMA (Anbe Sivam, Nayagan etc). This is more along the international film making pattern of story telling and movie making and Evano Oruvan ranks with cult movies like Kurudhipunal etc.
Recently we saw a movie called Katradhu Tamizh , which had a similar outbreak of a man but it was very radical , very extreme and very lop sided ( in the law of averages ) . But Evano Oruvan teaches it a good lesson as it puts to shame CINEMATIC REALISM by portraying ABSOLUTE REALISM in the classiest of manners.
The movie brings out the inner demon inside us and puts him/her to shame while it also brings out the fiery social hero inside and asks him to WAKE UP AND VIEW THE TRUTH! Storywise , I'm gonna reveal nothing - I would be doing injustice to the creator of this masterpiece if I talk about the story. But one thing for sure, it's about each one of us at some point of our lives!! This has to be one of the most realistic, heart felt, social, thoughtful and passionately formed story in Tamil Cinema after a long time (Katradhu Tamil, a notable ally!)
Screenplay and direction wise, it's awesome as the movie is basically about what happens in a man's life in about 2 days! JUST 2 days and the world turns upside down for him . The way Nishikanth managed to show all the vital things within the screenplay by the introduction sequence in the movie where the daily lifestyle of Sreedhar Vasudevan is shown, is simply great thinking as he saved up time and told it slickly! The sequences keep moving on perfectly, establishing all the necessary characters and twists. No scene is too long or too short , unnecessary or irritating. Still, you'd need patience to watch the movie as though the running time is short, the sequences were very DEMANDING and some of the weaker minds might lose their focus early on, in this screenplay. But nothing can be done about that as if everyone could be satisfied, then God would lose his job up above.But going by mortal standards,screenplay was spot on.
I'm still amazed about how a guy who has no clue about the tamizhans and their pulse, has picked up the right issues and made people emote in the right way to bring out the right message! At one point of time, I was melted to worthless liquid when i watched a scene where Maddy spoke like King Alexander while reciting a scathing letter in flowing english to God in the middle of the road in midnight . Even though the performance of Maddy in that scene was so touching and mind blowing, the idea to come up with something like that is fantastic and unexplainable of some sorts! Nishikanth really has taken us head-on with his handling of the screenplay and Direction. All the supporting cast were gelled into the movie that at no point did you feel like the supporting cast are giving a carefree performance! Nishikanth made it a point to get a firm grip on every inch of this movie, Hats off!!
I'm not supposed to be saying this but i almost cried today for the way Maddy struggled in the movie as Sreedhar Vasudevan. It made me feel hurt and passionate - about the issues dealt with.Anyways, I dunno if this movie is going to plant a change in the society or not. Even if it does, it will only be temporary as we are in a monotonous system where we will eventually revert back to the old practises to which we are exposed more.
There are a lot of people in the theatres who kept moaning and groaning! I hope they are reading this and I just want to tell them to - Buzz Off! I hope they are offended badly because these people really tarnish our industry big time. The efforts put into this movie really don't deserve the crap they threw at it.
Finally,Sreedar Vasudevan is R.Madhavan's BEST PERFORMANCE EVER! And one of tamil cinema's greatest performances ever - Easily! I was the last person to leave the theatre hall - it was so emotional and inspirational for me. I felt like I had a dose of courage, strength and pride instilled in me all of a sudden and it was all down to Maddy's performance. An ingenious performance of some sorts. He breathed fire when he was speaking to god in the middle of the road! HATS OFF!!!
Friday, October 13, 2006
Grant of clemency-- Political manoeuvres?
One issue thats been rockin d whole country 4 d past 1 month isthe debate whether AFZAL GURU shud be given clemency or not..
I personally feel that such people should not escape capital punishment.Granting clemency because a group is threatening to break into violence if he s hanged amounts to sumbitting ourselves to unadulterated blackmail,doesn`t it?Attacking the heart of republic India is too big a crime against d nation tobe granted pardon.If not 4 d jawans who sacrificed their lives 4 protectingthe parliament,the terrorists wud have made a mockery of d Indian claim of being one of d superpowers in d modern world.
And after masterminding suchan heinous crime,the family of dis guy wants him 2 be pardoned becoz his childwants 2 bcome a doc.To top it all,a group supports their claim and even J&KCM issues a public statement in his favour.This happens in no other country,except India--- mera bharat mahaan..
If dis incident had happened in any other country , the family members wud not have dared to venture out to raise a voicein his favour leave alone petitioning d prez.And d so called secularists say that he shud not be hanged.Such pseudo-secularists incl(Cong.&Left parties) have blatantly shown their interests in attracting vote banks rather than viewing such incidents with seriousness.The left have a dubious record in encouraging such anti-India activiies.Even during d Indo-Chinese war in 1962, they openly favoured the chinese cause.And WE-AS THE "responsible" citizens of India have been voting for them and even making them rule unchanged in some places for 20-30 yrs.
Lets take d case of Indira gandhi.A similar incident occurred where again d left and some other parties demanded clemency 4 dat terrorist.And that militant organisation,had openly challenged d Govt. dat India did not dare to hang him else it wudface very dire consequences.As PM she ensured that he was not granted clemency and was hanged in public view.Such a tough stand is d need of d hour and it does not seem 2 b d casesince our parties seem more interested in maintaining poll alliances dan punishing ahard core criminal and protecting Indians.
If we grant clemency to AFZAL GURU today, who knows there will be a situationwhere we nab Osama for actually bombing our parliament and granting him public apology and who knows he may be an MP in d next election too..
Let d decision dis incident spark fear in minds of terrorists and who knows this spark may turn into a fire which burns dem down.
You r free 2 give ur comments on dis issue and please do.
I personally feel that such people should not escape capital punishment.Granting clemency because a group is threatening to break into violence if he s hanged amounts to sumbitting ourselves to unadulterated blackmail,doesn`t it?Attacking the heart of republic India is too big a crime against d nation tobe granted pardon.If not 4 d jawans who sacrificed their lives 4 protectingthe parliament,the terrorists wud have made a mockery of d Indian claim of being one of d superpowers in d modern world.
And after masterminding suchan heinous crime,the family of dis guy wants him 2 be pardoned becoz his childwants 2 bcome a doc.To top it all,a group supports their claim and even J&KCM issues a public statement in his favour.This happens in no other country,except India--- mera bharat mahaan..
If dis incident had happened in any other country , the family members wud not have dared to venture out to raise a voicein his favour leave alone petitioning d prez.And d so called secularists say that he shud not be hanged.Such pseudo-secularists incl(Cong.&Left parties) have blatantly shown their interests in attracting vote banks rather than viewing such incidents with seriousness.The left have a dubious record in encouraging such anti-India activiies.Even during d Indo-Chinese war in 1962, they openly favoured the chinese cause.And WE-AS THE "responsible" citizens of India have been voting for them and even making them rule unchanged in some places for 20-30 yrs.
Lets take d case of Indira gandhi.A similar incident occurred where again d left and some other parties demanded clemency 4 dat terrorist.And that militant organisation,had openly challenged d Govt. dat India did not dare to hang him else it wudface very dire consequences.As PM she ensured that he was not granted clemency and was hanged in public view.Such a tough stand is d need of d hour and it does not seem 2 b d casesince our parties seem more interested in maintaining poll alliances dan punishing ahard core criminal and protecting Indians.
If we grant clemency to AFZAL GURU today, who knows there will be a situationwhere we nab Osama for actually bombing our parliament and granting him public apology and who knows he may be an MP in d next election too..
Let d decision dis incident spark fear in minds of terrorists and who knows this spark may turn into a fire which burns dem down.
You r free 2 give ur comments on dis issue and please do.
Thursday, September 28, 2006
My 1st day @ MSSS
I think it was 4th June 2003....
I felt no nervousness of goingto a new school.Just a bit disappointed that i had only 3 days gap after getting my 10th results.Anyway, with the thought of entering a new phase of life giving me company on a lonely trip to my new school, i entered the school.Being a new admission,i had usual apprehensions of a newie about the school.
I asked 4 directions from members of d skool and entered the class appropriated 4 XI-C.I saw 2-3 guys sitting on the benches in d last row.One of them first noticed me & greeted me with a warm smile.I reciprocated and sat near him.The last place near door in d last row.Trrring!!!!Wasit d School bell.After d prayer session,it was all a hazed images.One teacher after another paraded into d class for each periodeach sparking off another intro of new students ritual.
Though i knew G.P(its still a mystery how she manages to attend d 1st day of each academic yrregularly!!) prior 2 my admission,i knew i wasn`t going to get any spl. treatment meted out 2 me.I never spoke a word that day 2 my neighbours,except telling my name.In fact i was so apprehensive that,i never even had a look of other section guys or even gals till d end of 1st week. ................(will b continued)
I felt no nervousness of goingto a new school.Just a bit disappointed that i had only 3 days gap after getting my 10th results.Anyway, with the thought of entering a new phase of life giving me company on a lonely trip to my new school, i entered the school.Being a new admission,i had usual apprehensions of a newie about the school.
I asked 4 directions from members of d skool and entered the class appropriated 4 XI-C.I saw 2-3 guys sitting on the benches in d last row.One of them first noticed me & greeted me with a warm smile.I reciprocated and sat near him.The last place near door in d last row.Trrring!!!!Wasit d School bell.After d prayer session,it was all a hazed images.One teacher after another paraded into d class for each periodeach sparking off another intro of new students ritual.
Though i knew G.P(its still a mystery how she manages to attend d 1st day of each academic yrregularly!!) prior 2 my admission,i knew i wasn`t going to get any spl. treatment meted out 2 me.I never spoke a word that day 2 my neighbours,except telling my name.In fact i was so apprehensive that,i never even had a look of other section guys or even gals till d end of 1st week. ................(will b continued)
Wednesday, September 27, 2006
One day, the father of a very wealthy family took his son on a trip to the country with the express purpose of showing him how poor people live. They spent a couple of days and nights on the farm of what would be considered a very poor family.
On their return from their trip, the father asked his son, "How was the trip?" "It was great, Dad." "Did you see how poor people live?" the father asked.
"Oh yeah," said the son. "So, tell me, what did you learn from the trip?" asked the father. The son answered: "I saw that we have one dog and they had four. We have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden and they have a creek that has no end. We have imported lanterns in our garden and they have the stars at night. Our patio reaches to the front yard and they have the whole horizon. We have a small piece of land to live on and they have fields that go beyond our sight. We have servants who serve us, but they serve others. We buy our food, but they grow theirs. We have walls around our property to protect us, they have friends to protect them."
The boy's father was speechless. Then his son added, "Thanks Dad for showing me how poor we are."
Isn't perspective a wonderful thing? Makes you wonder what would happen if we all gave thanks for everything we have, instead of worrying about what we don't have.
Appreciate every single thing you have, especially your friends! "
Life is too short and friends are too few.""A Smile happens fast but its memory may last forever." Keep Smiling..... :-)
On their return from their trip, the father asked his son, "How was the trip?" "It was great, Dad." "Did you see how poor people live?" the father asked.
"Oh yeah," said the son. "So, tell me, what did you learn from the trip?" asked the father. The son answered: "I saw that we have one dog and they had four. We have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden and they have a creek that has no end. We have imported lanterns in our garden and they have the stars at night. Our patio reaches to the front yard and they have the whole horizon. We have a small piece of land to live on and they have fields that go beyond our sight. We have servants who serve us, but they serve others. We buy our food, but they grow theirs. We have walls around our property to protect us, they have friends to protect them."
The boy's father was speechless. Then his son added, "Thanks Dad for showing me how poor we are."
Isn't perspective a wonderful thing? Makes you wonder what would happen if we all gave thanks for everything we have, instead of worrying about what we don't have.
Appreciate every single thing you have, especially your friends! "
Life is too short and friends are too few.""A Smile happens fast but its memory may last forever." Keep Smiling..... :-)
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